You Fail to Realize…

You’re looking around at all the beauty that surrounds you. You’re standing there appreciating the Lord’s creations. You’re giving your undivided attention to them. But what you fail to realize is that someone is standing beside you. That someone is watching you looking at the other beauties. That someone is paying attention to the details of those others you are so curious and anxiously staring at. That someone is trying to find the words to bring your attention back to them.

You fail to realize that the person standing next to you was exhausted but put aside their own need for sleep just so they could spend a few precious hours with you. You fail to realize that person did a bunch of chores, although they were exhausted but still made an effort to make sure they looked fresh and beautiful for you. You fail to realize that the person you are spending time with at this very moment needs your attention and is giving YOU their undivided attention. You fail to appreciate them.

And then you wonder why they are quiet, angry or hurt? You don’t even realize it that you’ve disrespected them not once but many times like this and they have stayed quiet and not expressed how terrible it made them feel. You don’t even realize that it takes away from their confidence and embarrasses them when the person they are with makes a point to shift their body towards someone else sitting at another table because she is prettier, skinnier or sexier than the one sitting in front of you.

I am not gorgeous. I am not skinny. I am not sexy. But I am the one you have chosen to be with. I am the one you have asked to come see you. I am the one whose lips you will kiss and who you’ll wrap your arms around. If you can’t appreciate me, then you do not deserve me. You don’t deserve my lips. You don’t deserve my hugs, my care, my attention or my LOVE.

Remain oblivious as much as you may need. The loss will be yours. Not mine. I have loved. You have not. But when you realize ’tis YOU that I have loved, it will be too late to rectify your loss.

7 thoughts on “You Fail to Realize…”

  1. There is a quote that we would like to share with you, since each of us has felt your pain at one point or another – in the past or presently in a relationship – and our hearts go out to you. You can find many more wonderful quotes on one of our fans’ pages (http://marshmallowcenter.wordpress.com/) and this one is included there. It is posted as being an Anonymous quote, so we don’t know who to credit with the words either, but here it is:

    “Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you … The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.'”

    We all feel that you deserve to have serenity in your relationship, Serene, and you don’t have to be any more beautiful, sexy, or skinny than anyone around you. In your uniqueness, you are all of those things and more. You deserve someone who can see that as clearly as a bunch of women who have never met you can see it. Believe in yourself! (Besides, you have us to back you up on our blog if you need our words to whoop some Asshat ass!)

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    1. Thank you ladies for the kind words, inspiration and support! It is absolutely wonderful to know that I have an army of women standing behind me, that are complete strangers, yet are willing to take on the fight for me. Thank you so much!

      But I must say; the Asshat I spoke about in my post isn’t actually an Asshat. He’s a darling, he just doesn’t realize things when they’re happening. He read my post and we talked about it and being the darling that he was he apologized for it realizing it did really bother me. He does take care of me and he’s the “one” that kisses my forehead and wraps his arms around me when I’m feeling down. He’s almost everything your quote describes, he’s just a MAN! So, I forgive him and am still falling in love with him.

      I’d like to use the quote from the mysterious person and post about your comment here too, if that’s alright with you? It really touches my heart that complete strangers would be here supporting me! 🙂

      Lots of love ladies. Keep up what you do because I absolutely love your blog!

      Serene~

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  2. You are welcome to quote us at any time, Serene. We’re so happy to hear that things worked out for you! Thank you for supporting our blog!

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