Ni’s 27th Month Birthday Letter

Happy 27th Month Birthday sweetheart!

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This month was full of fun and laughter. Grandma spent a week with us to help mommy care for you after my surgery. You had lots of fun with her. Plus, you had your first, official play day in the snow. On our way from daycare, you wanted to play in the snow and since it wasn’t very cold out, mommy played with you. Luckily for us it was fresh fallen snow and was clean. You really enjoyed yourself as did I.

Later in the month we celebrated Ramesh uncle’s birthday. We spent the evening next door at his house and you ate lots of cake that mommy made for him.

It was a month filled with family and friends. And you know what? You are always the center of attention whenever our family and friends are over. Everyone love you so much and you’re such a good little girl. You barely ever whine or complain and most of the time you are very polite and respectful. I am truly blessed to have such a good girl. Everyone always praises how well behaved you are and that makes me proud. I hope you stay this way; polite and respectful as you get older.

Mommy and daddy are amazed by quickly you are growing and all the things your learning. We’re excited to see you become a beautiful, smart and kind little girl. We love you ever so much, Ni and don’t you ever forget that.

Happy 27th Month Birthday again my baby girl. Hugs and kisses always!

Sometimes Letting Go Is The Only Option

People come into our lives all the time. Sometimes they stay for a little while and leave. Sometimes they stay for a long while and leave a footprint on our hearts. Then there are people that come into our lives who you think you’ll know forever because you automatically hit if off; connected with them in a way you haven’t connected with anyone else before and then they suddenly depart. It leaves you searching for answers and looking for reasoning. You cannot come to terms with the fact that this person has departed your life without even as much as a goodbye. Days pass by. Weeks pass by. Even months pass by. You try your hardest to reach out to them, but they don’t respond.

Then there comes the hard decision to delete them from your social media accounts and close their chapter in your life for good. Clearly they are not responding because they have moved on. Shouldn’t you do the same?

For me, letting go of someone I considered such a great friend is extremely difficult. Over the past 8 months, day-by-day I have lost a little bit more of my friend to the point where I don’t think people would even consider us friends anymore. But I did still consider her to be my friend, that is until this morning when I took the decision to “unfriend” her off Facebook. It was an extremely hard decision but one that needed to be done.

I only allow access to people on Facebook if they are active in my life and/or a relative I care enough about to continue to keep in touch with them. When I first opened my Facebook account, I had over 1000 “friends” on it. As the years passed by, I realized I wasn’t going to speak to nearly 900 of these people ever in my life again and if that was the case, they didn’t need to know what was going on in my personal life and vice-verse. I learned this a long time ago – the more people you interact with from your past, the more drama its going to cause. So, for the last couple of years, I’ve done an annual clean-up and purge of my Facebook contacts, keeping only a select bunch that truly matter.

This is why it was so hard for me to delete her from Facebook.

For the past 4 years of my life, during some of the biggest moments of my life, she was there. She supported me. She celebrated me. She was my shoulder. She was my big sister. She was my mentor at work. And now she’s gone. I don’t know what went wrong and why. I guess it is what it is and I should suck it up and move on. It just hurts me and makes me sad that she recently celebrated one of the biggest things in her life and I was nowhere near part of it the way she was for me during my time.

I wonder if she’ll ever look back at the last 4 years and remember the crazy, funny, amazing times we had. If she does and recalls my blog, she’ll stumble upon this post and realize its about her and when she does, I want her to know that I am thankful for everything she did for me over the past 4 years. I’m thankful for the friend she was and grateful to have met her. I will miss her and never forget her. I wish her happiness, health and love for all her life. And if our paths ever were to cross again, I hope we can meet the way we were before today.

Why Do We React To Death The Way We Do?

No matter how many hours I sleep, I constantly feel tired. That’s been the norm lately post-surgery. I haven’t felt like writing, reading, talking or doing anything else for that matter. Even at work, my mind hasn’t been able to focus. My mind continues to wander towards the two recent deaths that have happened; my colleague and our family dog. I’m still in shock by both and don’t know how to deal with the loss.

Yes, life goes on and days will pass. But when your heart and mind is stuck on a person or thing that is no longer alive, it is nearly impossible to know when the day came and went.

As I was growing up I saw both my grandparents passing away. Sure, I was sad and had a lot of empathy for my mother. But I did not cry at their funerals and it did not affect me as much. Was it because they were old and had lived full lives? Or was it that I wasn’t close to them that it didn’t affect me as much?

Maybe I was much younger when and didn’t understand death and the effect it had on a person if it ever took place?  Or maybe after becoming a mom, I am just too sensitive (D constantly reminds me of this when I’m bawling my eyes off during sad commercials and soap-operas).

But I wasn’t close to Trish or Hogan either and both of their deaths have brought me to tears over and over. I simply cannot speak of either of them without wiping back tears. Hogan was old. He lived a full life. But Trish was young. I didn’t know her personally. I wasn’t very close to her. But I knew her for many years.

So why did I cry so much for Trish and Hogan and not for my grandparents? Why do we reach differently to different types of death?

Avocado Face Mask

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I’ve been looking for a reason to use the ripe avocado that’s been sitting in my fridge for the last couple of days besides the obvious one of eating it. So I decided I would work my Indian magic and create a face and hair mask.

Here’s what you need:
1 Ripe avocado
1 cup Yogurt
3-4 tbsp honey
3-4 tbsp lemon juice

Here’s what you do:
Mix ingredients in blender until a thick paste forms. Apply to face and neck and let sit for 15-30 minutes. Rinse with cleanser and moisturizer face. Apply to hair and scalp, cover with plastic wrap and let sit for 30-45 minutes. Rinse and shampoo and condition as normal.

Here’s what it does:
Avocados are rich in vitamin c and e and antioxidants and fatty acids; which help rejuvenate and moisturizer skin and hair.

Honey is so healthy for you, it’s a natural antibacterial, full of antioxidants; which helps treat and prevent acne and helps slow den aging. It also moisturizes and clarifies clogged pores.

Lemon juice helps minimize pores, brown spots and acne scars and also brightens the skin.

Yogurt full of proteins, vitamin d, calcium and probiotics helps brighten, tighten and rejuvenate dull skin. It also soothes and treats dark skin.

So next time you’re looking for a rejuvenating and refreshing mask, don’t look too far. You’ve got all the ingredients in your fridge. You’ll look and feel relaxed and glowing and save a chunk too!

Recipe Of The Week: Green Lentil Curry

Lentils are a used in almost all parts of India. Each province and city makes them differently. Being Punjabi, we love lentils with rice. It’s a Punjabi tradition! Cut up some red onions and serve with the rice and lentils and you’ve got an amazing meal to make any Punjabi smile and here I’m sharing my family recipe with you.

Here’s what you need:
1 cup green lentils
6 cups water
1 tbsp turmeric powder
1 tbsp chilli powder
1 tbsp curry powder
1 tbsp jeera (cumin seeds)
1 tbsp hing
2-3 tbsp ginger
1 green chili chopped
1 onion chopped

Here’s what you do:

  1. Boil water and lentils until lentils are completely soft and mushy. You may need to add more water as the lentils boil down. This can take 30-45 minutes on high heat. Do not remove lentils and water from heat, just lower the heat as much as possible.
  2. Once your lentils are boiled to softness, in a fry-pan you’re going to add oil and hing and cook until sizzling. Add in jeera and cook until brown.
  3. Add your onions and ginger and cook until onions are browned. Add green chilli and cook for a couple of minutes.
  4. Next add your dry spices, red pepper, turmeric, curry powder and salt and cook for 10 minutes on medium heat.
  5. Now, turn up the heat on the lentils and once they begin boiling, add the ginger/onion masala to the boiling lentils. Be careful because they will sizzle and splatter. Let the lentils and mixture cook for at least 10-15 minutes or until everything is nicely mixed in together.
  6. Serve with basmati rice and fresh onions.

Post-Cleanse Nutritional Information From Freshii

JuicesAfter my juice cleanse, I questioned the staff at Freshii to provide post-cleanse information and luckily for me, their In-house Nutritionist contacted me with the following information:

The easiest mistake that any Juice Cleanser can make is to eat the wrong foods post-cleanse. Your digestive system is very delicate after a cleanse, having not digested much for days. First and foremost, it is important to avoid all processed & packaged unhealthy foods; meats, cow’s diary, coffee and alcohol. If you jump right back into making unhealthy food choices, not only will you experience uncomfortable physical symptoms (stomach pain, bloating & nausea), but you will actually hinder the progress you made while cleansing! Take the days after you finish your cleanse as an opportunity to continue the detoxification process. Ease off the cleanse with clean, wholesome and easy to digest foods.

  • Begin each morning with a glass of warm water with freshly squeezed lemon.
  • Drink a superfood smoothie for breakfast with ingredients such as spinach, kale, chia seeds, hemp seeds, avocado, coconut oil and berries.
  • Consume lots of raw or lightly steamed vegetables, fruits, green salads & vegetable soups.
  • Slowly incorporate gluten-free grains into your plant-based meals-i.e. quinoa, brown rice, millet and amaranth.
  • Stick to plant-based proteins in the days following your cleanse (nuts, seeds & beans). Reintroduce light animal proteins gradually over the week such as steamed fish, white chicken or eggs.
  • Include fresh juices and plenty of plant-based foods each day for optimal health and wellness.
  • Continue to listen to your body to see what foods work well for you.

Use the Freshii Juice Cleanse as a chance to kick-start your health and break old habits of making poor food choices. Take this opportunity to start fresh, focusing your diet on plant-based and vegetable-rich meals; which will nourish your body from head to toe!

In-house Nutritionist
Freshii

I’m going to re-do my cleanse in a couple of weeks and will thoroughly follow the Nutritionists suggestions and comments. Had I received this by the time I finished my first cleanse, I would’ve followed it. But better late than never. I’m planning on re-doing the juice cleanse on Feb. 1st.

I’ll follow-up with all of you after my second cleanse and let you know how these nutritional suggestions helped!

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Hopefully The Last Surgery For A While

I had a deviated septum surgery yesterday. It went successful, hence why I’m able to post today. I look like I have a mustache with this bandaging over my noses; which is quite uncomfortable. But I don’t feel completely sick to my gut like I have after earlier surgeries.

I am really hoping this is the last surgery for the next 10-15 years that I have to go through. I really wish that all the health problems that arose in 2014 are now finally beyond me and I can move forward to a healthier life in 2015.

There is one more health issue that was discovered last year; that I will be having addressed tomorrow by a specialist. But I’m really not thinking much about it as the specialist initially mentioned she wasn’t too concerned with it herself. I’ll probably have a blood test to rule it out and hopefully, nothing major or concerning will come up.

Then I can focus on losing weight, walking more and spending more time outside with my little Ni this year. Wish me luck for tomorrow’s appointment. I’m really hoping its the last of the bunch.