This post stems from my previous post about “What Women Want”. Sometimes for me, at least, it’s easier to just day stuff like “it’s fine” or “ok” to avoid drama or the need to explain myself yet once again. But what I might mean by it’s fine or ok is actually that it’s not fine or okay for that matter and you should know better.
I’m sure there are many other women that do the same. Sometimes it’s just easier to end the the conversation and go on with your day then getting into the details. Many times I feel drained of constantly having to repeat myself or explain myself; which is why I choose to end the conversation and/or topic completely with a simple k or nvm.
Here I’ve compiled a list of things I say versus things I mean. Hopefully, this list will serve its purpose for people, specifically men, in figuring out what we’re actually saying when we say stuff.
Fine = totally not fine
Hmm = she’s not thinking. She mad
Whatever = you should know better
Oh ok = it’s not okay
K = you pissed her off
Are you okay? = making sure you still care
Sorry = not sorry but I’d rather not argue anymore
I’m sorry = genuinely sorry
Nvm (never mind) = you better figure out what you did wrong
Gn (good night) = I’m mad and you should know why
Let me know if I missed any and I’ll gladly add them to the list.