Category Archives: Emotional

Happy, sad, confused, scared, worried – the list goes on…my emotional threads are all listed here

It’s Time To Walk Away

“When resentment takes over; it’s time to walk away.

When unfulfilled expectations build-up; it’s time to walk away.

When you’ve exceeded the limits of begging; it’s time to walk away.

When your throat is sore from yelling and fighting for what should be rightfully yours; it’s time to walk away.

When the tears have dried and only fire burns your eyes; it’s time to walk away.

When you’ve exhausted all means of communication; it’s time to walk away.

It’s time to walk away, when you realize your self-worth.

It’s time to walk away, when you realize you deserve so much more.

It’s time to walk away!”

Tamana

Love Is Such A Weird Phenomenon – Ruby Dhal

I recently started following a writer/poet on Instagram named Ruby Dhal (@r.dhalwriter). She is absolutely brilliant in the way she describes everything we feel and go through.

Yesterday she posted an explanation on love; it was one of the best ways to describe this stupidly, exhilarating emotion and experience. I thought it was only fair to share with you.

“Love is such a weird phenomenon. You look at one person and suddenly your heart decides that your whole universe will revolve around them. You tie your emotions, your happiness, your wishes and dreams to that one being as if they have all of the answers to every single question about your life. Love is so weird because, if you think about it, it is completely irrational to hold one person and make them the center of your existence. It is completely irrational to think that just their presence is enough to make everything okay. Just one smile on their face is enough to make our day. Just one hug somehow has the power to solve all of our problems. It is completely irrational. But still we do it anyway. We fall for people and we let them fall for us in the most beautiful way possible, as if that is what destiny requires from us. Love is so unimaginably magnificent despite it all, despite its irrationality, its ability to control everything in our lives and despite the undeniable pain it brings with it, I don’t think we would have it any other way.” – Ruby Dhal

Follow Ruby on Instagram @r.dhalwriter

Positive People Army

Have you heard of the Positive People Army? Maybe seen their founder, Heidi Allen on Global News? Well, she’s a friend of mine and she began a journey a couple of years ago to make the world better and not only better but full of better, positive people.

You’re probably wondering what the Positive People Army is and why I’m suddenly writing about it. This Army is a group of people working to positively support one another and bring positivity back into the world.

“The PPA is a positive group, providing positive posts to uplift our daily lives. The Positive People Army’s goal is simple: to bring positive voices, stories, quotes and videos to a growing army community.”

I’m writing about it today because I believe through Heidi’s vision of a positive world, I too can make a difference in people’s lives by introducing them to this Army.

I’m not shy of admitting I’ve dealt with enough negativity in my life and have taken bits of people’s positivity and guidance to help deal with my issues. And although I am not fully involved in the Army as much as I’d like to be, I wanted to share it with all of you with the hope that the Army’s positivity and support might assist you during a rough patch in your life or inspire you to become a leader in positivity.

“The EMPPACT leadership program is an extraordinary course designed to help you discover yourself and truly learn what it takes to become a positive leader. The program is geared to coach and prepare leaders to successfully run their very own Positivity in Practice Workshops within their community and worldwide. It’s an opportunity to make spreading positivity a new and exciting job or career! The journey begins as a two-day program packed with remarkable leadership tools, powerful exercises, astonishing self-discovery experiences, as well as many “A-HA” moments that will change your life!”

Click the link below to read more about the leadership program and/or join the group on Facebook and gain an Army of support!

Positive People Army Empact Leadership Program

Bell Let’s Talk Day: Mental Health Awareness

For the last eight years on January 31st, Bell Let’s Talk Day has opened up the conversation of mental health. It was an initiative to remove the stigma around mental illness.

In my culture and community, mental illness is still a taboo. We don’t openly speak about depression or mental health issues; you’d be quickly labeled as mental or retarded (for a lack of better word). Which is why the Bell Let’s Talk Day is so important for me.

It’s no secret that I’ve battle with depression and mental instability over the years. Anyone that’s read my blog or knows me personally knows what I’ve gone through and how I’ve struggled to overcome my depression. So for me a day to openly admit and discuss how mental illness affects my life is a day I can’t take for granted.

Mental illness is not a bad thing. Each one of us faces some sort of mental illness throughout our lives. It is now time we speak about it openly and stop hiding behind the masks that everything is okay and that if we speak about our mental struggles people will label or judge us.

Today, let’s check in with our loved ones and open up the conversation for mental health. Every text, tweet or social media conversation with hashtag #BellLetsTalk 5 cents will be donated towards mental health initiatives. Open up the conversation and do your part to make sure you and your loved ones have the support they need when they are struggling.

~Tamana

Remembrance Day

“They shall not grow old, as we that are left shall grow old: age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we shall remember them.” – Laurence Binyon, “Ode of Remembrance”

On the 11th minute of the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month bow your head and take a moment to remember what the veterans across the world have done for all of us. Please take a moment to honour their lives and cherish their memories.

Regardless of your race, colour, religion or culture, you are a human being first and foremost and in your country and in our world, there have been veterans that gave their lives so that we could be who we are today.

Lest we forget.

Saying Yes To Anti-Depressants Can Change Your Life

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I recently had the opportunity to share my story on the Positive People Army blog. Here’s the story below. The Positive People Army is about people sharing their stories and possibly receive support from the army so that we can all overcome our issues and join together. Here’s my story from the Positive People Army blog. Make sure to check them out!

A year ago, I was prescribed anti-depressants to deal with my depression, I didn’t take them.

There is so much negativity around taking anti-depressant, especially in my Indian culture. Taking a pill to deal with yourself is a sign of weakness and you are labelled as crazy or mentally unstable.

Even my parents had this thinking.

Taking pills for mental health and/or speaking to a psychiatrist meant you were needy and unfit. It was a big taboo.

So, I never took anti-depressant, no matter what happened in my life and how badly it affected the person I was becoming.

Growing up, I was the tough-child. Nothing phased me. I could get through everything without shedding a tear, or so everyone believed. However I cried myself to sleep a million times. Never in front of anyone.

I kept a diary and put my heart and soul on paper. I refused to let my hard-exterior drop in front of others.

This went on for years and years until I finally started cutting myself. Did your jaw just drop at the news of that?

Cutting oneself is a different kind of high that many people don’t understand. When you are battling your worst demons and your heart hurts, it is nearly impossible to rid yourself of the pain you are experiencing.

This is where cutting came in for me. If I could inflict physical pain to myself, then maybe the internal pain would stop. And it did. For some time.

You don’t cut to kill yourself. Anyone that has ever gotten to the point of cutting themselves, knows this and knows how and where to cut. If they don’t, they’ll definitely look it up.

For me, it was this mindset that I needed to do anything in the world to get the pain out of my mind and soul and so I cut. At the time, this was my logic.

Fifteen – twenty years later and slightly wiser, I know cutting won’t rid me of my demons or pains. If anything, It will make me weaker knowing I gave into my misery.

Yet the depression still exists.

This past year year I have felt defeated. I have felt lost. I have felt hopeless, almost pathetic. I felt like running away.

I even lay in bed a few nights ago and thought how my husband and child’s lives would be should I pass-away suddenly. No, I didn’t plan my suicide or even consider doing it. It was just thoughts of whether I am helping their lives or putting them through more misery.  Am I making their lives any better or easier? Am I giving them happiness? Or are they secretly as depressed as I am because of my depression?

After fighting myself all year I finally decided to take an anti-depressant. After much thought, reading and research, it became clear to me, that this is the way to go. I don’t know what the outcome of this tiny pill will be; all I can hope for is that it helps me control these extreme highs and lows I have felt

I urgently made an appointment with my family doctor.

I met with him and gave him the details of this episode. He knows the history, he knows the triggers. He knows it must have been so bad this time around that I HAD to see him immediately. And after a long chat, he prescribed me with Wellbutrin. It’s going to help calm things down, I hope.

I take a pill every morning. Anti-depressants don’t take effect immediately. But this was the beginning to managing my mental-health and stability.

Sometimes a new beginning is all you need.

That beginning moved me towards a new me. A less emotionally charged and unlikely quickly agitated me.

The pills helped, there’s no question about it.

I used my energy to do more and become a domestic diva. I pushed myself to try new recipes and elaborate my skill of cooking. I invested my efforts and time in creating selling sunburst mirrors.

The mirrors reflect a piece of me bursting out like the rays of the sun, to shine and shimmer in my house and life. I look at my wall of mirrors and each one tells me a story of a day or week I felt weak but overcame my weakness.

They are my pride and my happiness hanging on the wall. I sell my mirrors because I want everyone I know and the ones I don’t know to have a burst of shine and happiness in their lives and with all the money I raise, a small portion of it goes towards a happy evening of food and family celebrating.  The other portion goes towards helping a charity I strongly believe in.

I know enjoy celebrating. This is now what my life is all about.

Anti-depressants helped me re-start my life.

Never Put More Faith In Someone Than They Deserve

197075_1291417941423_5872494_nSometimes people come in our lives and immediately become one of the most important people you’ll ever meet. You become so close to them, trust them with your deepest, darkest secrets and rely on them to be everything you were lacking in your life.

You trust them with everything you are and give them so much importance. But sometimes, these people take the importance you are giving them for granted. They treat you with disrespect and are mean at times, but because you have made them out to be so important in your life that you overlook all the terrible things they say or do. You ignore the fact that they are verbally and emotionally hurting you. It’s like you’ve got an imaginary blindfold over your eyes. You see everything they are doing, but you don’t let it bother you because they are your friend, they are important, they are everything and everyone you rely on.

But you are nothing for them. You don’t have any importance in their life. You are just another person they meet and talk to. They continue to be mean to you and say things that should hurt you. But you ignore it all. You continue on with your ignorance and stupidity.

Until one day, everything explodes. All secrets are unveiled. All lies told. All truths opened. The world around you shatters. The walls cave in and you are left defenceless, helpless, vulnerable and exposed. With nowhere to turn, you face the reality of your ignorance and are hit head-on with things you never thought others would know.

Here I am today; completely exposed. So, what do I do next? Any suggestions? Because today, I am completely lost. I put my life and trust in the hands of a friend, that betrayed me in the worst possible way. It was my fault, I admit it. It was all my fault. But what do I do now?