Category Archives: My Life

Life of a mom-in-training. Everything from emotional confessions, relationships details and tips and daily life.

I Got A Job

As you all know, I’ve been job hunting over the past couple of months. But I’ve also been very picky with where I apply and where I work. I didn’t want to just work anywhere and for the sake of money; I wanted to find an employer where I could be happy, where there was ample room for growth and where I could build a career.

After my clinical training in a long-term care facility, I was definite that I didn’t want to work in that environment. The caregiver to patient ratio is absolutely devastating. I understand that many people or their family’s cannot afford private care, but it depresses me to see one PSW working with 10, 11 or 12, 13, etc. patients.; its unfair to the patients and to the caregivers/PSWs. It’s physically draining for the PSW and the patient doesn’t get all the time, affection or compassion they need and deserve.

Don’t get me wrong, many of the PSW’s that work in long-term care are extremely compassionate and loving but when you have 10 or 11 patients that require you to do nearly everything for them and you’re on time restrictions to get everything done in time for breakfast, lunch, dinner or activities; it makes it hard to spend the time time comfort or reassure the patients.

Long-term care homes break my heart and when I think about why I got into this profession, I cannot make myself want to work like that, even if the money is better than in other places.

So, I searched for retirement homes that were hiring and reached out to friends in the industry to see if they knew anywhere that was hiring and hold behold, a friend came through and submitted my resume at his workplace.

I began interviewing before the holidays at this luxurious retirement home; I call it luxurious because it is so beautifully built and kept, it looks better than many five-star hotels. As the new year began, I was losing hope because I hadn’t heard back from the hiring manager; which was strange because the interviews went so well. Even one of my former office managers whom I used as a referral told me the hiring manager was thrilled by the feedback she gave her. So, why wasn’t the call coming?

The holidays and busyness leading up to them got her schedule completely full and she wasn’t able to get back to me until after the break. Thankfully though, I got the call and was hired as a permanent part-time resident care partner (RCP), it’s a fancier word for Personal Support Worker. But I’m happy with the title and position.

I started working a couple of weeks ago picking up causal shifts here and there and will officially start on my permanent shift starting this Sunday. I’m a little nervous but have faith that I will excel and be one of the best care providers that I can be.

Wish me luck and send me your blessings so that I may provide the best compassionate care to my residents and succeed in the vision I have of myself doing this job.

Xoxo ~ Tamana

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Bell Let’s Talk Day: Mental Health Awareness

For the last eight years on January 31st, Bell Let’s Talk Day has opened up the conversation of mental health. It was an initiative to remove the stigma around mental illness.

In my culture and community, mental illness is still a taboo. We don’t openly speak about depression or mental health issues; you’d be quickly labeled as mental or retarded (for a lack of better word). Which is why the Bell Let’s Talk Day is so important for me.

It’s no secret that I’ve battle with depression and mental instability over the years. Anyone that’s read my blog or knows me personally knows what I’ve gone through and how I’ve struggled to overcome my depression. So for me a day to openly admit and discuss how mental illness affects my life is a day I can’t take for granted.

Mental illness is not a bad thing. Each one of us faces some sort of mental illness throughout our lives. It is now time we speak about it openly and stop hiding behind the masks that everything is okay and that if we speak about our mental struggles people will label or judge us.

Today, let’s check in with our loved ones and open up the conversation for mental health. Every text, tweet or social media conversation with hashtag #BellLetsTalk 5 cents will be donated towards mental health initiatives. Open up the conversation and do your part to make sure you and your loved ones have the support they need when they are struggling.

~Tamana

Miracles – A Mother’s Love

No matter what has happened in my life. No matter what challenge or struggle I may be going through. No matter how hard life has beaten me down. There has, is and always will be one person that stands firm beside me to raise me back up.

She’s been my strength when I couldn’t get up on my own. She’s been my guide when I was lost. She’s been my inspiration when I was scared. She’s been my wisdom when I was confused. She’s even been my banker when I was broke.

She’s my mother.

We take for granted the love our mothers give us and feel for us. But their love is nothing less than a miracle in disguise. My mother is a my miracle. She’s the blessing that has stood by my side since before I could even understand the importance of her love and strength.

Even now, she continues to hold my hand through my difficult times and struggles.

So, I’m honouring her today, as I do everyday. But I called her today to say thank you for everything she is and does for me.

Have you said thank you to your mom recently? Maybe it’s time to give her a call and let her know how special she is to you. You’ll be surprised how emotional and happy she will be.

~Tamana

Quick Update: My Days

Happy Thursday! I hope all of you are having a good week. My week is going by, as are my days. I’m a full blown house-wife these days and part of me is enjoying the lack of commitment to get up in the morning and go to work. But the other part of me is also bored of being home all day, cooking and cleaning. Don’t get me wrong, all the power to all the stay-at-home moms/dads and housewives. But it’s just a bit frustrating for me and boring. I start getting depressed throughout the day and try to keep myself busy but end up procrastinating to do anything meaningful, aside from the daily chores.

I have been applying to jobs; however, secretly am also hoping to win the lottery, so I don’t have to work at all. Ridiculous, isn’t it! To be honest, I enjoyed going back to college last year and having to only worry about getting my assignments done and good marks. But its tough studying and living on a single income; which is why I need to find a job as soon as possible.

Aside from the job hunt, nothing else exciting to tell all of you. As you’ve noticed I’ve started posting more consistently these days; that was one of my resolutions/goals this year: to deliver more regular content, more frequently. I will post the one off stuff, as I always do. However, I will be writing more about the topics I am passionate about, more frequently: mommy stuff, recipes, current life status’, restaurant diaries and beauty/life hacks.

So, stay tuned for more consistent content and if there is anything you guys or gals want me to write about, please let me know in the comments below! Until then, have a blessed week and stay warm.

Xoxo ~ Tamana

New Year’s Resolutions

I made a small list of resolutions a couple of days ago. I haven’t made any for the past few years but this year there are a few things I need to accomplish; what better way to start towards finishing them than make a list and post it online? Many of these things, except one (I’ll get to it shortly), are resolutions or goals I set for myself often and of course, like many people, I never complete them. But I’ve given it a lot of thought and enough is enough; I need to stop procrastinating and being lazy and get them done. Here’s my list in no particular priority.

  1. Lose 55 lbs. – my brother is getting married next August/September and I’d like to be healthier and slimmer than I am now, so that I can wear all my beautiful Indian outfits without feeling insecure and uncomfortable. This has been a long time resolution and goal of mine but I have been lazy and unfocused to actually accomplish it, until now. I’ve already begun exercising every other day for at least 10 minutes a day. I know it’s not enough but I believe if I start slow with manageable timings, I’ll go further with losing the weight and becoming fitter.
  2. Save $10,000 – as you all know, we’ve gone through a financial rough-patch recently and that’s mainly because we had barely any savings in our account. By the end of year, I’d like to have at least $10,000 saved up in my bank account, so that we don’t have to struggle the next time we’re on a bumpy road in life. Hopefully, we don’t hit anymore bumps and can save this money as an eventual down payment towards our own house one day.
  3. Save $1000 for Christmas 2018 – I love Christmas and love to bake, make tons of treats and shower my loved ones with gifts. But when you’re pinching pennies just to get by, it’s nearly impossible to have money left to buy presents or sufficient groceries to make all those treats. My goal is to save $1,000 by next December aside from the above mentioned savings. This $1,000 will be solely spent on anything and everything Christmas/holidays related. So, the idea is to save $20 a week; which will bring us slightly under a $1,000 by the beginning of December.
  4. Visit India – no one in Dev’s family has met Nid and they’ve constantly been inviting us down to come visit. So, we’re hoping to go to India by next Diwali. Dev really misses celebrating Diwali in India, he misses all the extravagance, food, fireworks and family get togethers. Hopefully, our work schedules will allow us to take enough time off.
  5. Go on an all-inclusive vacation – neither Dev or I have gone on an all-inclusive vacation and we’d love to see some of the Caribbean islands and have a week to just relax, drink and eat.
  6. Complete prerequisites for the RPN program – I am undecided whether I want to work towards becoming an Registered Nurse (RN) or Registered Practical Nurse (RPN). The RN program runs 4 years and the RPN for 2 years. But the prerequisites for each course are intensive and I’ll need at least four to six months to complete all to align myself to take the course when I’m ready. But going back to school full-time means I’ll only be able to work part-time and I’m not sure if Dev would be okay with me going back to school again or not. That’s a conversation I’ll have to have with him over the next few days.
  7. Write on my blog more frequently – the past year or so I’ve become so busy in life that I’ve forgotten to focus on my passion; which is this blog. So, I’ll be writing more frequently this year and will write some regular posts about topics most important to me, like: mommy life, restaurant reviews, recipe of the month and some about inspirational people I meet along my day-to-day life.

I’ll let you know how my progress towards these goals are going and the conversation with Dev regarding going back to school. Stay tuned.

Do provide your inspiration, prayers and any tips or tricks and share your resolutions as well.

Happy New Year! Hope your year kicks off with a bang. ~Tamana

Happy New Year!

The New Year is upon us and I’m really hoping this year is better than the one that just finished. The past year was extremely busy and stressful. We went through a lot of ups and downs and I’m completely over all the drama and craziness.

Most years I don’t set resolutions for myself because I never complete any of them. But this year, I have a bunch of things on my list that I want to accomplish and I am more determined than ever. I’ll have my resolutions list posted tomorrow for all of you to read and to share your resolutions with me.

For today, enjoy the first day of the New Year! I hope the Lord blesses you with everything you need and want this year and you accomplish everything you strive to do.

Happy 2018, my lovelies! ~Tamana

It’s Official: I’m A PSW

Yay! I passed my NACC exam and officially a PSW. I just need to wait for my diploma; which should arrive in 4-6 weeks and now get a job. Woot!

It was hard and I doubted myself a lot throughout the process but I have to say I am so proud of myself. I’ve started many things in my life but always let life take its toll and quit halfway. But this time, I finished it and that too with being top of my class.

Next steps, find employment and begin the journey towards becoming a nurse.

Thank you all for your prayers and wishes. Many people contributed to my success, especially my husband; he is my greatest supporter and strength. I don’t think I could have done it without him.

Anyway lovelies, enjoy your weekend. I’ll keep you posted on the job searching. Until then, have a blessed weekend.