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A Lesson On Judging Before Knowing The Whole Story

I recently saw this Facebook post about a lesson a teacher taught her students and thought of sharing it with all of you. I feel like sometimes we don’t look at the whole picture and judge or make assumptions. This story is the perfect example of it and a great read for this gloomy Wednesday. Unfortunately, I don’t know who the author is or what website it was posted to, so I can’t give the proper credit to the author. If anyone knows where this was originally posted, please comment and I’ll add the credits to the story. 

A teacher was tutoring a class of students when she relayed a story about a cruise ship capsized while at sea, and on the ship was a couple that managed to make their way to a lifeboat but realized there was only space for one. You’ll never guess what lesson they learned from the story.A cruise ship met with an incident at sea. On the ship was a couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked, “What do you think she shouted?”
Most of the students excitedly answered, “I hate you! I was blind!”
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our child!”
The teacher was surprised, asking “Have you heard this story before?”
The boy shook his head, “Nope, but that was what my mom told my dad before she died to disease”.
The teacher lamented, “The answer is right”.
The cruise ship sunk. The man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness. At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary, “How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone”.
The story is finished, the class was silent.
The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.
Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.
Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.
Those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.
Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you anything but because they see you as a true friend.
Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything and nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare… One day our children will see our pictures and ask “Who are these people?” And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: “It was them that I had the best days of my life with.”

Last Day Of Daycare

  Friday was Ni’s last day of daycare. OMG! Right? When did she become two and a half years old? When did she get so big? How did the time fly by so quickly? 

It was a depressing afternoon. I cried as Ni hugged all of her teachers and said good bye. She doesn’t understand yet that she won’t see her teachers, whom she has grown so close to anymore. But I understand it all too well. I remember leaving elementary school and realizing I wouldn’t see my two favourite teachers again. Luckily for me, I went back to volunteer during my co-op in high school and have kept in touch with one of them ever since. 

But these are Ni’s first teachers and they are like family. These are women I trust my child with for over 8 hours every day for the past year and a half. They are her second mothers. They have taught her so much; to eat on her own, so many nursery rhymes, counting, and so much more. But most of all, these women have taught her about a love that someone other than your family can provide. They have taught her that love can come from complete strangers. They’ve taught her that how to love and that she is loved.

I’m going to miss joking around with Stacey, Bella and Malti. I’m going to miss the guidance and affection Grace, Hazel and Marlin provided and the tough exterior and loving nature of Olive. If I could, I would never let Ni move out of this daycare. I begged Olive to let her stay. But it’s out of all of our control due to city regulations. 

But this bond we have made with these lovely ladies will never be forgotten. I hope to let Ni remember them and visit them often. 

To the ladies of this daycare, thank you. Thank you for every boo-boo you healed and kissed while mommy and daddy were at work. Thank you for taking care of a piece of my heart as if she was your own. D and I cannot thank you all enough for your love and compassion. 


Besides Roxy, there has been one other person comforting me and helping me through all this. She is the one person I never thought I would be talking to about all this. She was made out to be such a hard-ass to me by other people.

But over the past few days, Maria has made me realize that “what you see, is not what you get”. And although, I was in shock by the concern she showed towards me, I am also so grateful to have started to get to know her.

Who is Maria? She is one of my many bosses. She is a person who makes many people nervous. She is a role model for many women in the work place. Honestly, there aren’t enough words for me to explain how wonderful of a person she is.

Hard exterior but soft, comforting interior. She has been so nice to me over the past few days. She’s made room for me in her overly busy schedule; just so I could to talk to her and let my heart out. She’s made suggestions that I am and will consider when I am ready to take the next step forward. But not only that, she’s given me a shoulder to lean on, she’s even opened her home to me and offered to help me get through this.

Just because I see her every day or saw her every day over the last year or so, doesn’t mean I knew her. But the concern and care she has shown me over the last few days, has completely got me stumped. I guess the saying holds true; never judge a book by it’s cover.