Happy Birthday, my precious darling.
Today I wish you all the happiness the world has to offer. I wish you success and wisdom with everything you do. I wish you strength and tolerance to overcome every obstacle and fear. But most of all, I wish you love; may your heart forever be filled by it and may you always project that same love out into the world.
This past year you have grown so much as a young lady, sometimes working your magic on keeping me in line. Most days I wonder how I got so blessed to become your mother. You have been my strength this past year, helping me get through the many obstacles and fears that overcame my mind and heart.
The older you get the more I realize that I have a best friend growing before my eyes. You are the love of my life. You and I both know I never liked children, I still don’t today. But you, my darling, have taught me that there are little angels like you that fortunate mothers like me get blessed with which make loving children so important and necessary. You have taught me to love, to be patient and to accept what life gives me.
Your cleverness and intelligence makes me question my own intelligence. Your maturity makes me wonder which one of us is the mother and which one of us is the child. Your sassiness and wittiness has shown me a side of myself that I don’t know yet if I should celebrate or fear. But most of all, the love and affection you portray to me and the rest of the world has taught me to be a better person.
You are the blessing every mother asks for when praying for a child. Someone up there must really love me because I was blessed to have you come into my life.
I love you baby girl and wish you nothing but the best life has to offer. Happy 7th Birthday, Nid! Xoxo
I’ve recently developed an abscess on my tailbone that has taken the better part of the past week to develop and come to form. It is one of the most excruciating pains I’ve ever felt in my life. I cannot sit properly, walk or even lie down on my back and getting up causes even more pain than sitting down. I’ve tried every remedy in the book and am also taking antibiotics prescribed by my physician. But nothing has helped. To add trauma to injury, I developed a fever and chills this past weekend.
If that wasn’t enough to deal with, my mother took my father to the emergency on Friday because he had severe shortness of breath. He has congestive heart failure and constantly has fluid buildup in his lungs if he doesn’t monitor his liquid intake. So, emotionally my mind has been with her and my father all weekend because she isn’t well herself and is dealing with his illness on her own.
All-in-all, it’s been a difficult few days to deal with.
Maybe I am too emotional or in so much pain that I feel the people around me have been of no help since this abscess developed.
All this emotional and physical pain caused me to have a complete meltdown this evening. Unfortunately, Nid ended up being at the receiving end of my meltdown. I was in pain and she wasn’t listening and I just began to cry and told her how I was feeling and how upset her not listening was making me and that her and her daddy hadn’t made the past few days easy for me with what I was dealing with.
And now I feel horrible because she doesn’t see me lose my cool often and so she began to cry herself after seeing me cry.
After consoling her, I finally got her to sleep. I am still feeling terrible for melting down in front of her and will speak to her about it in the morning.
But I have to wonder, should I be ashamed of what happened this evening? Our children see us at our toughest, dealing with anything and everything life throws at us. But is it okay to let them see us when we breakdown and are vulnerable?
Have any of you ever had a meltdown in front of your child? How did you deal with it afterwards? I’d love to hear some insight from any of the moms that read my blog.
It’s mid-term report card time and Nid’s teacher has notified me that she will be getting C’s and D’s in language. But her math is extremely good. I’m so disappointed that she is not grasping the French language. However, I don’t think it’s a matter of her not understanding. I truly believe she isn’t picking up the language because she isn’t focusing.
I’ve tried speaking to her on numerous accounts about why she isn’t focusing and her only excuse is that she is bored with the routines of daily school life. Now, someone please tell me what do you say to a six year old already bored of school life?
Don’t get me wrong, this little cookie of mine is so intelligent when it comes to general knowledge. She has a creative eye and is always eager to learn new things and frequently surprises me with the things she learned or discovered.
However, she’s bored with school (already)! What do I do? I’ve told her that she needs to go to school because unless she learns to read and write, all the general knowledge she has won’t be as relevant and she won’t be able show the world her talents and knowledge.
We’re blessed with an amazing teacher, who is working extremely hard with her and me to get her to understand the language and work hard to succeed. He has so much faith and confidence in her and continues to guide her and coach her one-on-one to ensure she succeeds.
But I am stressed to the point that I cannot get this little cookie to focus long enough to understand what is being expected of her or taught to her.
Do you think she could have symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)? Have any of you dealt with this condition with your children or experience a similar scenario that I am facing with Nid?
I think, I am going to begin reading up on the conditions of ADHD and see if this might be a reason why she’s struggling.
Your stressed mama ~ Tamana
Thought I’d share some of the highlights of baby girl’s birthday with all of you.
She got surprised at school with balloons, cupcakes, toys and tons of treats to share with her classmates the day before.
On her actual birthday, she got to dress up like a cosmic-butterfly and also had a trip to a pumpkin patch.
In the evening, myself and her dad, grandma, an aunt, my brother and sister-in-law surprised her with a cake and gifts. And of course, her maasi (my sister) sent a special gift for her since she wasn’t able to make it.
And of course, we went trick or treating around the block.
I want to thank all of our family and friends for all the love and blessings they showered on my little darling through all social media channels. I read each one of your messages to her and she was so amazed at how many people took the time to wish her. She is a blessed child and we are grateful parents to have all of you around the world joining us with celebrating our little girl.
Feeling humbled ~ Tamana
Happy Birthday Baby Girl!
Mommy and daddy wish you so much love, happiness and success today and always. You are the brightest light in our lives and we count our blessings each and every day we get to see your beautiful face.
You’ve made us proud with all your achievements over the past year and we glow with happiness every time you overcome another obstacle. You’ve had some rough patches throughout the year; which is absolutely okay because that’s how you’ll learn what is right or wrong. But know that mommy and daddy will forever be here standing beside you when you need the support, standing ahead of you when you need the guidance and protection and standing behind you when you need a push to move forward.
Happy Birthday, my darling, Nid. We love you so very much and will always love you, even on the days you don’t love yourself or when it doesn’t show; don’t you ever forget that, my love!
~ Mommy ~ Tamana
My little darling, Nid, you continue to amaze me every day with how smart and loving you are becoming.
As you begin a new chapter in your life, I want to wish you wisdom and strength. I want to wish you laughter and friendship. I want to wish you happiness and compromise. But most importantly, my darling, I want to wish you love.
Senior Kindergarten was a tough year for you on so many levels. You experienced bullying; some done to you and some done by you. You experienced uncertainty when learning a foreign language. You experienced separation anxiety when you were first put on the school bus. You experienced, independence when asked to bring home your uniforms and containers daily. You experienced growth when given homework every Friday.
My love, you rose above all your obstacles and shined brighter than the North Star. You proved my uncertainties wrong and excelled in everything you took on.
This year, as you enter grade 1, I want to wish you this one prayer:
Thank you for the gift of my child.
Please watch over her as she goes back to school and protect her from negative influences.
Help her to be a light to others and help her show love, care, and respect to her friends and teachers.
Please protect her from bullies but if she faces one, give her courage to stand up for herself and others.
Help her to remember that when she is scared, You are with her. As much as I love my child, You love her even more and I know You will be watching over her. Amen. 🙏🏼
I love you, little lady and hope you have an amazing grade 1. Xoxo
As my little pumpkin grows, I have noticed a huge change in her behaviour. We’re have challenges with her listening to us and today she lied about something very mediocre; nevertheless, it was a lie.
Have you dealt with lying or behaviour issues? What was your solution or technique to get your little people to listen?
I have tried having numerous conversations with her and I have asked her questions to figure out if there is something bothering her; which is causing her to act out. She doesn’t have a reason. She just wants to do what she wants to do.
Maybe she’s at the point of developing her personality and is experimenting with things she can get away with.
Quite frankly, I don’t know what it is. But it is getting to me and I have lost my cool a few too many times today. I have taken away her privileges and grounded her but to no avail. She still acts out and doesn’t listen.
Any suggestions? I am going to try read up on behavioural solutions tomorrow but in the mean time, if you have any proven solutions and ideas, please share them with me!
The Frustrated Mommy ~ Tamana