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Quick Update: Week 1 Complete

I’ve just finished my first week of school and am happy to say that I have enjoyed it. It’s a cramped course; which will be completed in eight months, so there’s a lot of information to process. However, I think I’ve done good so far. 

I’m taking lots of notes and writing every detail down which may be useful. In addition, I plan to review my notes and highlight my textbook with important points this weekend. 

This past week has given me the opportunity to understand how hard PSW’s and nurses work. It’s also shown me how much support some people will need as they age; making me reflect on my own aging parents and loved ones. I’m glad I decided to take this course. It will enable me to treat and care for my aging parents in a manner that will make their upcoming old-age slightly more comfortable.

This morning as I was getting ready to leave for school, I couldn’t help but wonder if my parents would come stay with me when they’re old and unable to fend for themselves. I would be the perfect caregiver for them because by the time they will be that old, I would be well-trained and hopefully working in my profession for a few years. I can only hope that they would give me the honour to repay them for the years of love, care and compassion they’ve given me all these years and allow me to care for them in their time of need. Time shall tell. 

Anyway, that was my first week in review. I’ll keep you guys and gals posted on how I progress over the next several weeks. Until then, my lovelies, enjoy your weekend and stay safe and blessed.

Xoxo ~ Tamana 

What Are We Leaving Our Children Behind To?

People encourage me to have another child. My parents, relatives, friends and even regulars at the restaurant tell me that I should have another child before Nid gets too old. I tell them I’m not ready and physiologically and financially cannot afford another child right now.

The fact of the matter is that I am horrified to have the one that I already have grow up in this world and what it’s becoming. Isis killing the Europeans. Americans killing Americans. A race fight. Honour killings. Pedophiles. Gang rapes. People overdosing on drugs that even experts can’t explain. The world is pretty much fucked and it’s just going to get worst.

It scares me shitless thinking my little Nid will one day walk this earth without her parents. How will she deal with everything this world is turning into? How will she cope with all of this? Especially, when her own parents are having a hell of a time handling everything happening in the world.

Sometimes I turn on the news first thing in the morning and nearly end up crying. It’s devastating seeing what human beings are doing to each other and to our planet. How can I imagine another child in this world? I mean, tough luck for Nidhi, she was a golden child so she’s here without a choice of her’s or mine. And I will do everything in my power to leave her in a place where she is strong, brave and capable of handling anything that comes her way. But to intentionally bring another child into this world knowing everything that is happening seems a bit stupid. 

On the flip side, I think God forbid something were to happen to Dev and I, at least Nid would have a sibling. She would need a sibling and companion who knew exactly what she was going through. 

But will they actually be there for each other? I mean, look at me and my brother, we haven’t spoken in nearly 10 years and quite frankly, I’m happy it’s that way. So when I think about that relationship, I figure its best not to have a sibling at all. But that’s my own drama that we’ll keep out of this post for the sake of sanity.

The important matter is that if I bring another child into this world knowing that I haven’t done anything to better it would be a sin and lack of compassion for this world and my children. So, I’ve decided to pay it forward. As most of you know, I can be an incredibly selfish person but equally caring and loving. I am taking a new step in my life to help others and give a little back to this sometimes bitter world. 

Along with changing my career completely so I may help people (details to come), I am also going to be taking Nid with me to help clean our community on afternoon walks on the weekends. Aside from that, I will begin collecting clothes, toys, food from my own home to donate to shelters for youth. I think our youth need the most support right now because after we leave, it will be them that walk this earth and I hope with my efforts, I can change someone’s life for the betterment of their future and cause them to do a little good. 

I know, it’s not a lot but every effort helps and will better our world a bit at a time. I hope my new outlook to better this world for my child, will spark a flame inside of you to also do a little for the betterment of your children and the world they’ll live in. 

Merry Christmas 

Merry Christmas everyone. I hope you’re surrounded by amazing food, tons of laughs, happiness and all of your loved ones. 

Last night, I held Christmas Eve drinks and dinner for my darling brother, his girlfriend and a couple of our friends. I was quite tipsy but I think everyone enjoyed themselves and the food.

I’ll be surrounded by some of our closest friends tonight and will be preparing a feast to share with them. I’m so excited to begin cooking and setting my table. So, I’ll take your leave now. But I hope you’re all as blessed as I am to have all the necessities and then some to enjoy Christmas without much worrying. 

Merry Christmas!

Christmas Is A Day Away

The countdown begins to Christmas and although I am super excited; I am also slowly becoming stressed out. I went on a baking frenzy last weekend and baked over 150 cookies, four different types. But they seemed to have disappeared over the past few days. So, this weekend, the plan is to bake double the amount plus some new recipes. 

Thankfully, I prepared my Christmas dinner menu two months ago and just need to hit the grocery store to pick up the ingredients and produce and begin cooking. But now I feel like I am about to host three Christmas get-togethers. My traditional Christmas Day breakfast and dinner, plus Christmas Eve dinner, since my brother and his girlfriend have decided to come over on Christmas Eve. Now I have to prepare a whole new menu for them. If that wasn’t enough, I am not even close to finish my Christmas shopping and wrapping. 

The days have gone by far too quickly and as ready as I am, I am feeling a bit flustered and overwhelmed by the added guests and things to-do. I know everything will eventually get done and everything will be perfect but the anticipation of getting everything done the way I want it to be has me in a frenzy. 

I’m also hosting Christmas Eve dinner for my brother, his girlfriend and a couple of friends. But thankfully, I’m making Indian food, so it’ll be quick and easy or so I hope.

At least all of my gifts are wrapped and ready to be opened. I’m super excited to see everyone’s face when they’re opening the gifts. Then the big dinner. I love how my family and friends are always so appreciative for the effort I put into cooking. 

I’ve got to get going now. Merry Christmas to all of you and I hope you have a blessed day full of great laughs, delicious food and rooms filled with your loved ones.

My Favourite Time Of Year 

Although it’s getting cold outside and the weather will slowly turn miserable; it is my favourite time of the year. Our Christmas tree went up yesterday and garlands and lights light up the entry way to my kitchen, washroom and tv stands. There are so many little decorations all around my home and my baby girl’s face lights up with excitement every time she discovers another accessory she hasn’t seen before. I love the way my home smells of cinnamon and vanilla because of the candles and hot oils I am burning.

This time of year brings great joy to my world. Yesterday a couple of friends came over and helped put lights and a couple of decorations on our tree. And later this month a few of our friends will join us for a Christmas feast and drinks. It excites me to begin deciding and planning my menu for the big dinner and trying new recipes. 

Today I plan to bake cupcakes for our employees at the restaurant and some of our regular customers. Later this week, I’ve got a new cookie recipe to try; which I’m sure Dev and Nid will love. My home will be smelling like heaven over the next few weeks and I absolutely love it!

For me the holidays are all about the decorations and baking and feeding my family and friends. What excites you most about the holidays? Leave a note!

My 34th Birthday

Tuesday was my 34th birthday and like every year I was super excited about it as soon as Nid’s birthday party ended. I don’t know what it is but my birthday always gets me excited. I don’t expect much from anyone anymore but still the fact that it’s my day still makes me happy and giddy.

I came home from work late on Monday night to find two bouquets of flowers on my dining table and two birthday cards. One bouquet and card from my neighbors who have become a second set of parents for me and grandparents for Nid. The second bouquet was from my hubby, the card hand picked by my little munchkin, who managed to even write my name on it. What an amazing way to start my day. If that wasn’t enough, the hubby had a cake and present hidden away to surprise me with when midnight arrived. 

The next day, when I walked into work, a former colleague turned best friend who left for Japan earlier this month had left a birthday card with another colleague to give to me on my day. Her card brought me to tears because she remembered to leave me a card and bring back all the memories I have of us together. 

Later that day, a frequent customer that I always chat with brought me a box of pastries. Her little gift was such an unexpected gesture and gave me another reason to feel blessed and happy for it being my special day. 

When I got home in the evening, my dining table was set and dinner was waiting for me. But it wasn’t the hubby that had done all of it. In fact, my parents drove all the way from across the city to bring me a home cooked meal. My mom had made all of my favourite dishes including her amazing and my favourite desert and had set up my table with candles and all so that the hubby and I could have a nice candlelit dinner since we couldn’t go out for dinner that night.

I must say this year more than ever I felt blessed and loved like I haven’t in a long time. I didn’t get big fancy gifts and didn’t expect to either. But the few people I have in my life that I truly love, respect and live for and some I would’ve never expected anything from have showed me that growing old isn’t so bad and material gifts will just wear and tear or tarnish over time; but small gestures can make you feel so happy to be alive.

This was one of my best birthdays ever. I haven’t had so many tears of joy since the day my kiddo was born. I don’t want to jinx the blessings that are upon me but had to write about them and put them out into the universe so that everyone around me and near and dear to me knows how thankful I am for them and for my life. 

Happy Diwali

I hope this Diwali lights up your life with happiness, love, prosperity and good health. 

I hope you begin to live your dreams and succeed in everything you do this year. I hope your homes are filled with laughter, good food, great friends and the love of family. 

Happy Diwali from my family to yours. 

~Ziddi Tamana