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The Resignation: It’s Time To Move On

Quiet!After giving seven years of my life to the same employer, last Friday, I resigned. It was an extremely difficult but exciting task to do, but one that was long overdue.

I loved working here. It was one of the best companies I had worked for and I met so many amazing people. I used to be very happy with where my career was going and colleagues.

There used to be an adrenaline that came with working in the media industry. You were constantly tackling new things; you were always on your toes. You dealt with different departments, people and levels of seniority. It was constant go, go, go. I loved it. No day was the same. No two tasks were alike. It was exciting and you felt like you were part of the bigger picture.

A year ago, everything changed, drastically. The company I had grown to love, had changed. Some of the people I worked so closely with, had changed. The laid-back atmosphere I had grown comfortable with, had changed. I won’t say I was completely unhappy, because that would be a lie.

I started feeling lost. I had no sense of direction. I didn’t feel like I was part of the overall goals. Yes, I was tackling the day-to-day but it all felt meaningless; which stemmed my need to grow and venture out. I wanted to stay with this company, but the opportunities weren’t there.

With one more week to go, I am tying loose ends, closing tasks out and saying my goodbyes slowly. This company gave me a good seven-year run. It was exciting and very educational while it lasted. But it’s time to close this chapter and move on.

Sometimes Letting Go Is The Only Option

People come into our lives all the time. Sometimes they stay for a little while and leave. Sometimes they stay for a long while and leave a footprint on our hearts. Then there are people that come into our lives who you think you’ll know forever because you automatically hit if off; connected with them in a way you haven’t connected with anyone else before and then they suddenly depart. It leaves you searching for answers and looking for reasoning. You cannot come to terms with the fact that this person has departed your life without even as much as a goodbye. Days pass by. Weeks pass by. Even months pass by. You try your hardest to reach out to them, but they don’t respond.

Then there comes the hard decision to delete them from your social media accounts and close their chapter in your life for good. Clearly they are not responding because they have moved on. Shouldn’t you do the same?

For me, letting go of someone I considered such a great friend is extremely difficult. Over the past 8 months, day-by-day I have lost a little bit more of my friend to the point where I don’t think people would even consider us friends anymore. But I did still consider her to be my friend, that is until this morning when I took the decision to “unfriend” her off Facebook. It was an extremely hard decision but one that needed to be done.

I only allow access to people on Facebook if they are active in my life and/or a relative I care enough about to continue to keep in touch with them. When I first opened my Facebook account, I had over 1000 “friends” on it. As the years passed by, I realized I wasn’t going to speak to nearly 900 of these people ever in my life again and if that was the case, they didn’t need to know what was going on in my personal life and vice-verse. I learned this a long time ago – the more people you interact with from your past, the more drama its going to cause. So, for the last couple of years, I’ve done an annual clean-up and purge of my Facebook contacts, keeping only a select bunch that truly matter.

This is why it was so hard for me to delete her from Facebook.

For the past 4 years of my life, during some of the biggest moments of my life, she was there. She supported me. She celebrated me. She was my shoulder. She was my big sister. She was my mentor at work. And now she’s gone. I don’t know what went wrong and why. I guess it is what it is and I should suck it up and move on. It just hurts me and makes me sad that she recently celebrated one of the biggest things in her life and I was nowhere near part of it the way she was for me during my time.

I wonder if she’ll ever look back at the last 4 years and remember the crazy, funny, amazing times we had. If she does and recalls my blog, she’ll stumble upon this post and realize its about her and when she does, I want her to know that I am thankful for everything she did for me over the past 4 years. I’m thankful for the friend she was and grateful to have met her. I will miss her and never forget her. I wish her happiness, health and love for all her life. And if our paths ever were to cross again, I hope we can meet the way we were before today.