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Self-Care & Love

image1 (5)We are bound by the responsibilities and relationships we’ve created for ourselves. We are busy maintaining these every day. It’s very easy to get caught up in the daily hustles and  forget that self-love and care should be an essential part of our daily lives as well.

We are super-mom/dad, super-student/employee, daughter/son, the list goes on and on. We have so many roles we play every single day.

But let me ask you this, how often do you take a minute to sit, reflect and recuperate yourself? How often do you sit back and be yourself, YOU and only YOU, as a whole?

It’s important to take a few minutes, a half-hour, even an hour and just be with yourself; to care for yourself; to do something that you truly love doing and that makes you happy.

Because without self-care, nourishment and love, it is impossible to give our relationships and responsibilities the attention and care they need.

Have you heard the instructions the flight-attendants give before the flight takes off? “Put your oxygen mask on first before helping someone else.” Do you know what that means? It means that you need to take care of yourself first before you try to take care of anyone else. If you are not complete within yourself, there is no way you will be a complete mom, employee, daughter, friend to anyone else.

So, every day, I wake a little earlier than I probably should, make myself a cup of coffee, turn on the news and just sit on my couch and relax. I enjoy the personal time, the quiet, the time where I am not responsible for anyone or anything besides finishing that cup of coffee. I also do this every night after Nid goes to sleep. I sit, I listen to music, I put on a face mask to rejuvenate my skin and relax on the couch before heading to bed.

It’s a simple way to prepare yourself for the day and unwind after a hectic day. It’s my time to be myself, to let loose, to forget everything I worried about the day before and through the day. It’s a way for me to listen to all the noise in my head and sort it out. It’s a time for me to reflect on all the emotions of the day and translate them into what they mean/meant to me. It’s a time for me to write my thoughts down or smile remembering something that made my heart warm throughout the day. It’s my time to be me, just me and for my sanity and productivity.

How do you unwind? How do you give back to yourself what you’ve given out to all your loved ones and responsibility? Is there something you do that brings you back to utter peace and calmness?

~Tamana

Happy Anniversary, Mr. S.

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7 years and he’s still melting my heart. Happy Anniversary, Dev!

 

I’m Done, Adulting That Is…

I am so done with being an adult. I want to go back to being a child with no responsibilities, bills or expectations. I want to eat, sleep and play all day without a worry in the world and want my biggest fear or concern to be that I can’t find my favorite toy or that I didn’t get ice cream. Lol.

Do you ever get to the point where you want a break from life? Well, I’m there right now.

No, nothing’s wrong. I’m not depressed either.

I’m tired. That’s all. Plain, simple tired.

I think my trip to Cuba did more harm than good for me because it’s put me in a stance of not wanting to be here at all. We were without any responsibilities, except making sure the munchkin had enough to eat because she fussed about some of the food. Aside from that, the three of us were care-free, without deadlines, timings, responsibilities and I absolutely loved it.

But being mom and wife, you still sometimes end up having a lot of responsibilities even when you’re on vacation: making sure all the clothes are packed, making sure all the medications/vaccines are taken, making sure all the correct documents are ready and that’s all only before you actually leave for the vacation. Once you get to your destination, you’re constantly tidying up the room, making sure your child has had sufficient water to drink, food to eat, or is wearing enough sunscreen to protect her precious skin. Then the beginning tasks start all over again, making sure you pack everything, tip everyone, don’t leave anything behind and all the documents are in order.

Although, those are a different type of responsibilities, they somehow mostly fall on us moms.

I want a vacation by myself. A vacation where I don’t have to be responsible, at all. So, I can not adult and just be a care-free person, even if it’s just for a few days. I want to walk around like a tourist, explore a new city, taste amazing food or eat junk for a whole week and take a million selfies and pictures and sleep in until half the day is done, on a huge bed, all by myself. Is that too much to ask for?

Okay, I’m done being in my fantasy. Back to reality I go.

Have a blessed week. xoxo ~ Tamana

Mom-In-Training: Busy Mom

I haven’t been writing much lately; partially due to being obsessed with playing games on my phone and partially due to being busy with home, work and a major project to redecorate Nid’s bedroom. She’s growing up so fast and I’m just trying to keep up with her.

She had a lot of baby/toddler toys and furniture lying around collecting dust, so I decided to sell whatever I could and buy her some new stuff. She has one of those cute loft beds but it’s currently in the bottom position and I would like her to start sleeping on the top so that I can create a cute, cosy desk area and reading nook for her.

I found some great ideas on Pinterest for her room but there is one particular one that caught my eye. Here’s a pic of it. Sorry I don’t have credits from what website it was on, so if you know who originally posted this picture let me know and I’ll give them credit for it.

Nid’s bedroom walls are a similar colour and so, I’m recreating this room with a few of mine and Nid’s ideas.

I’ve been looking for a purple shag rug for the past few weeks and can not find any that are budget-friendly; so I’m making her one! I found a great video on Instagram showing how to make mats, I’ve decided to take it up a notch and am creating 5×6 rug. It is a lot of effort and is taking quite some time, however, it’s costing me a fraction of the price to make and with being home most of the week, I can afford to take my time to make it for her. Here’s how far I’ve gotten:

I will post pictures of it when it’s a bit further along and maybe even a how-to tutorial.

We have a $250 budget with most of the funds coming from selling her old toys, clothes and accessories. I’m keeping a very tight lock on my wallet because it’s so easy for me to get carried away with buying accessories and decorations. Stay tuned for more updates on her room!

Have a fantastic week and stay blessed.

Xoxo ~ Tamana

Our 6 Year Anniversary 

6 years ago, yesterday, D and I got married without telling anyone in our families. 

I had always wanted to elope whenever I found the right guy for me and D made that happen. We eventually, went through with the “asking for my hand in marriage” shenanigans, engagement and “big-Indian wedding” drama. But the wedding we secretly had 6 years ago on August 10th, 2011 was far more meaningful to me than the wedding that involved our families. 

We were blessed to find one another and everyday that passes, I count those blessings and thank the powers above for bringing us together. We’ve had a few rough patches but we’ve pulled through and I am ever so thankful for such a patient, reliable, respectful and loving guy to have walked into my life. 

Happy 6 year’s anniversary, my love and thank you for being my strength, encouragement and joy. Here’s to us!

A Day To Myself

I woke up super early to catch the sunrise and enjoy a cup of coffee on my balcony. In a couple of hours I will be meeting with my nail artist to receive a much needed manicure and eyebrow wax. Then home to relax. Dev has given me the day to myself; a day to relax, a day to be duty free and to just attend to things I’ve put off on my personal to-do list.

I finished my chores list yesterday so I could take a day off to just relax after the dreadfully scary week I’ve had with a throat infection causing numerous asthma attacks. I’m much better now, thanks to the many different medications I’ve been on this past week. 

I have a major assignment due on Monday and have been slowly cracking at it all week. But intend to complete it today so that the rest of the weekend can be carefree and enjoyable. It’s my sister’s birthday on Sunday; which means we’re spending the day in Brampton with the fam-jam. 

But for today I am putting all those things aside and enjoying my day off. The plan for the day is nothing. Relax, watch a favourite movie, maybe down a bottle of sparkling and get my assignment done and of course, write a blog post or two. 

I hope your weekend begins as wonderfully as mine has. Xoxo ~ Tamana 

Never Any Time


I know I’ve completely decreased the amount of time that I write on my blog. I know that I’ve sort of abandoned all of you but the truth is that I just don’t have time. I don’t have energy. I don’t have mine set to write and constantly am exhausted. I am working with my husband, as you all know and although, I am his business development assistant manager, I also his waitress or I should say his cashier, his supplier, his errand runner, his accountant, his secretary and as his wife, I’m also his personal assistant. So I barely have time for anything and when I do have time; I’m so exhausted and mentally drained that I don’t have the energy to write.I now work nearly 50 to 60 hours a week, whereas before, as a project manager I was working close to 37 to 45; that’s a huge difference. Plus, I am also not counting the times when we are at home and we are putting together the weekly schedule or ordering inventory from our suppliers or running around trying to get one of the parts for one of the machines we use. Those are all on the side jobs that essentially don’t get accounted for towards the hours we work. 

So, that is my excuse, that is why I seem to try to only write at least once a week and sometimes I even miss that and end up writing about only once every two weeks. I’m sorry for that and for anybody who has followed my blog over the past few months or year will know that my blog is truly my sacred place; it is my life but unfortunately right now, it is secondary to the current life I’m living. I’m sorry, I hope you all understand. I hope you realize that the changes I made a couple of months ago with my career, with my life and with my health have all affected me and have brought me to the conclusion that I will still display or portray my life on my blog but sometimes my blog will have to wait. I’m still around and I will try my best to write as much as I can,!even if it’s just a couple of lines every couple of days. So stay tuned and be patient and wish me well and luck with everything I’m doing.

Xoxo ~ Tamana