Tag Archives: mom-in-training

Ni’s 22 Month Birthday Letter

Ni's Weekly & Monthly Birthday Letters
Ni’s Weekly & Monthly Birthday Letters

Happy Birthday, angel! You’re 22 months old, already. Yay!

I can’t believe the countdown to your 2nd birthday has already begun. I mean, it feels like yesterday you were so tiny and now you’re growing up so quickly. I amazes me everyday to hear your speak new words and see you become more and more independent. It’s almost time for mommy and daddy to start potty-training you. We’re a little nervous but we know that you’re a quick learner and will get the hang of it sooner than later.

As for this past month, its been fun and tiring. We took you to Ripley’s Aquarium for a day out. You loved all the “go-go” (you call animals go-go because nani’s dog’s name is Hogan and from Hogan, you started calling him go-go. So now you associate all animals as go-go). You and daddy did a lot of running around and when we weren’t trying to catch you, you sat up on his shoulders.

Ni & D at Ripley's Aquarium
Ni & D at Ripley’s Aquarium

I love seeing the two of you together. He’s your best-friend and you are the love of his life, the center of his world and everything beyond it. You’re a very lucky girl to have such a loving daddy and daddy is a very lucky daddy for having such an amazing daughter like you. And I am the most luckiest mommy and wife in the world for having both of you.

Nothing else special happened this month. So, I’ll keep this letter short. Just know always, that mommy and daddy love you dearly. You’ll always be our baby girl no matter how big you get and we’ll always be here for you, today, tomorrow, forever. Happy 22nd Month Birthday, sweetie pie.

Ni’s 20 Month Birthday Letter

Ni's Weekly & Monthly Birthday Letters
Ni’s Weekly & Monthly Birthday Letters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy 20 Month Birthday, my darling angel. You are such a big girl now and have you ever changed in the past month. You’re sprouting 7 teeth, 4 up and 3 down. You’re talking so much more and making little sentences like, “hi daddy” and “mommy aaja” (mommy come here), you’re even singing fuller songs. It’s amazing seeing you grow into the big girl.

At the beginning of this month, you moved up to the toddler room at daycare; which means, no more bottles and soothes. Eventually, you’ll begin potty-training as well. But for now, you are learning to become more independent. Eating on your own, drinking from a big girl cup. Taking off your jacket and shoes (when needed). Going  down the slide on your own and climbing up the stairs more often.

At home, you’re a little mischievous monkey, always, trying to climb up on the coffee table and dining table chairs. Trying to sneak mommy and daddy’s cellphones away, so you can have a secret conversation with nani (grandma) and your imaginary friends.

Speaking about nani, she just got back from India mid-month and I was certain you wouldn’t warm up to her right away. But you did and you’re madly in love with her. So much so that you constantly call out to her throughout the day, even when she’s not around. Nani is so proud to see how big and independent you’ve grown in her absence and she’s absolutely, madly in love with you too.

Anyway, pumpkin, not much else has happened this past month. So, just know that mommy and daddy love you ever so dearly. You are our pride, our joy, our everything and we will forever be here for you, no matter what.

Happy 20 Month Birthday again!

xoxo – Mommy

Related Articles:

What’s Your Child’s Security Blanket?

Every child has a security blanket. It’s what they keep with them almost all the time. It’s their go-to thing when they are upset, angry, sad, hurt and even happy. My Ni has a “security blanket” as well; her pacifier. I cannot leave home without it and if I ever forget to put it in her diaper bag, I have to go back and get it, otherwise all hell will break loose should she get upset. It’s one of those things that I always have a spare of in my purse, car, even my jeans pockets most days. One has even followed me to work somehow and is in my desk drawer.

I’ve tried getting her attached to a doll I bought her, but she just plays with it for a bit and tosses it away. She’s had the same blanket since she was born until recent, but she doesn’t seem to miss it now that we’ve replaced it with a “big-girl” blanket. She’s not even attached to her milk bottles and will happily drink from a sippy cup or glass if the situation calls for it.

So all she has is this pacifier. A special Fisher-Price Orthodontic type, that I’ve only ever found at Shopper’s Drug Mart. Over the past year and a half, we’ve ended up collecting about 10-15 of them, as somehow we just can never find them when we need them,  so I just pop into SDM and grab a new one. They’re quite expensive, when you add them all up. But having her paci with her keeps her calm and brings down the temper-tantrums and helps her fall asleep. So, how can I put a dollar value on that?

The other thing I’ve noticed is, she always wants me when she’s upset. Daddy can be there but she almost always diverts her eyes and body towards me. Maybe I’m her secondary security blanket. Knowing that she wants her mommy, puts a warm smile in my heart. It sucks for daddy, but after all, I am her mommy. (If you’re feeling all sad for daddy, DON’T! Because the minute daddy comes home, she sprints off my lap, to the front door and into his arms – and I secretly think, she likes him better than me anyway).

What is your child’s security blanket? How do you soothe your little babe? Should I be weaning her off of the pacifier now that she’s 18 months old? Share your baby secrets with me and I might just feature you on my next post!

Happy Mother’s Day

20140511-005755.jpgHappy Mother’s Day to all the amazing mothers, to-be mothers, grandmothers and aunts. Without all of you, all of us wouldn’t be here today. Thank you for every thing you do for us and sacrifice so that we children can be happy.

I’m spending my day with my neighbour, who’s like a mother and my favourite aunt and Ni. Lunch, tea and snacks. Looking forward to a relaxed day with a couple of my favourite ladies. Unfortunately, my mom is still in India, but I’m thinking about her and missing her dearly and have sent her flowers and a cake from all of us here. So, she’ll know we’re thinking about her.

Here’s what D and Ni got me…

20140511-005501.jpg
And what my brother got me…20140511-005811.jpg

Lots of love to all the women celebrating this special day. Happy Mother’s Day!

Mom-In-Training: When Your Child Hits Another Child

I went to pick up Ni from daycare yesterday and one of the assistants there notified me that Ni had slapped another child. I was quite disturbed to hear this because I am so against violence in the home or outside. I’m not sure where she could have picked up such behavior from. Maybe another child at the daycare had hit her and she picked it up from him/her? Maybe she saw something on television? Highly unlikely,  because I try to avoid watching anything violent when she’s around.

When she does something wrong, I bring her near me, tell her that is wrong or bad or not good to do it and if she continues after that, I’ll hold her hand and tap it, saying Ni, that is not a very nice thing to do. She is associating my tapping her with hitting and in return hitting other children when they do something she thinks is wrong?

After hearing that news from the assistant, I went home and couldn’t stop wondering, if I had taught my child to hit other people. So, after I got over the stress-factor, I started searching the web for ways on how I could prevent her from using violence to express her frustration and rectify this situation. I came across a blog post on Psychology Today that talks about preventive measures you can take to stop your child from hitting other kids.

I don’t fully agree with all the suggestions on this blog post, but some of them were worth noting:

  • Accept the feelings your child is portraying with an open mind
  • Set firm and clear consequences and limits for actions
  • Normalize your own emotions to show respect and so you don’t over react

You can read the post HERE.

When I was growing up, if you did something wrong, you’d automatically get a punishment (slap or worst). But you wouldn’t really get a talking-to. Whether that was the right way to discipline a child, I’m not sure. All I know is I hated my father and brother for hitting me. I don’t even remember most of the reasons why they would hit me. All I remember is that they hit me. Because of their abuse, I acted out more, I became stubborn and stopped caring. I had a hatred for them for a long time. It’s probably one of the reasons why I haven’t spoken to my older brother in over 7 years and don’t get along with my father as much as I would like.

Violence is not the  way to handle things, in any situation! Parents violent against their children pretty much raise a violent child, a child with low confidence and so many other emotional issues. In return, the child ends up hating their parent, going against them even more and somewhere along the road acts violently or destructively as well.

After much research and thought, I’ve decided to talk to Ni every time she raises her hand to hit someone else or herself. Since the incidence, when I notice she’s becoming violent or frustrated, I pull her close to me, I tell her that it’s okay to be upset, but raising her hand to hit someone is a bad thing. She’s only 18 months right now, so I’ m not sure if she understands fully, but it does seem to be calming her down and/or distracting her away from her frustrations.

I think I’m on the right path. What are some ways that you’ve disciplined your children? How have you dealt with your child becoming violent or frustrated? Please share your insights and suggestions with me. I’m still a mom-in-training and just trying to figure things out.

Related Articles:

Ni’s 18 Month Birthday Letter

Happy 18 Month Birthday, sweetheart!

Although this month has been quite stressful for mommy and daddy, your smiles, silly faces, babbling, singing and playing make everything go away. It’s like you know that mommy and daddy are stressed or upset at this very moment and you’ll do something absolutely adorable or hilarious, that’ll make us forget about our stresses and focus on you.

This past month you’ve grown so much as a little person and you’re learning something new every single day. You learned how to say the word Apple and Purple. You seem to really like the word Apple and constantly call everything apple. Plus, you’re enjoying mastering the skill of walking up the stairs. You seem a little nervous if mommy tries to have you walk down the stairs. So, I’ve decided to let you master walking up and then later we’ll work on walking down.

I’ve also been told my your daycare workers that you enjoy going on the slide now. This is very new for you and you’ve seemed to really love the experience. Hopefully, over the next couple of weeks the weather will get warmer, so I’m going to take you to the nearby park and go down the slide with you. The weather has just been horrible this winter and so far this spring. But as soon as it gets better, we’re going to start spending a lot of fun time outside, I promise.

And here is the big news of the month….

You finally have a tooth sprouting out! Yay!!!! It’s not fully visible yet, but the bump is there and it seems like any day now, they’ll be a big, white shiny thing in the center of your mouth. Woo hoo! I am so excited. I’ve always said that as soon as your first tooth comes in, I’m going to pop a bottle of champagne and throw a party, because you’ve been teething since you were 7 months old and still don’t have any teeth. And now that one is coming in, I think a party is in order.

See, darling, you are growing up and become so beautiful (both on the inside and out) every single day. You make us so proud to be parents and we cherish every moment we spend with you. Happy Birthday, sweetheart. We love you dearly, forever and ever!

Related Articles:

Ni’s 17 Month Birthday Letter

Happy Belated 17 Month Birthday, pumpkin pie!

This month has been a busy one. We finally found a paediatrician that knows what she’s doing, she understands your health situation and is willing to investigate! She’s absolutely fantastic and I’m finally seeing a light at the end of this tunnel you were stuck in.

Along with that, you’ve also grown this month. You’re already 81cm, that’s only 99cm away from mommy’s height and 119cm away from daddy’s! Plus you can now say “cookie,” your name, and sing songs. It’s amazing seeing how quickly you’re growing up. You’re becoming more independent daily. You even like to eat with a spoon all by yourself.

Besides that, this month hasn’t been all that exciting. Mommy and daddy just love seeing you grow up and become a beautiful little girl that you’re becoming. The weather is finally getting nicer, so I’m really hoping to start taking you out for walks on the weekend and sometimes in the evenings. Plus, we’ll even go the nearby playground, where you can use the slide and swings. Oh, I can’t wait!

But for now, baby girl, remember that mommy and daddy love you dearly. You are our pride and joy and we’ll always be here for you, no matter what. Love you pumpkin!

Happy Birthday again! Xoxo