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Happy Mother’s Day

Mother’s are one of those people that can never be replaced. No matter what definition you use to describe a mother, it is never enough because there are not enough words in the English dictionary to define her. She is our friend, our companion, our saviour, our guide, our understanding, our knowledge; she is everything and there is no one before her and no one after her, except the Almighty.

Growing up, I knew she would always be there for me in my time of need. But as I aged, especially when I turned 30, I realized that she was everything. She became my best friend and me, hers. The bond I have with my mother is one that I only pray I have with my own daughter when she’s older and wiser.

Happy Mother’s Day, mom! I love you with all my heart and only pray I can be even half the type of mother you are.

Wishing all the mothers, grandmothers, aunts and sisters a beautiful Mother’s Day!

~Tamana

How Did This Year Pass By So Quickly

Ni is one years old. She’s already started daycare. My parents are in India. Diwali is over. Even D’s vacation is done. And next week Tuesday I’ll be back at work; which means my maternity leave is over.

Seriously, where has this year gone and how did it go by so quickly? It feels like just yesterday I found out they were going to induce me a week later and D and I were freaking out on our way home that a week from now we’d finally have our little baby. And look at today, she’s crawling and laughing and attempting to walk and say words. She’s grown so much and is becoming more and more independent daily. Soon she’ll be off to school, then high school, then college and then work.

How is time flying by so quickly? D and I just look at her and wonder where that little angel is that once fit on our one arm. We sit and talk about how fast life is moving. I’ll be a year older in just over a week. Then Christmas will come and New Years, spring will arrive and my parents will be back from India.

It feels like it’s all happening with a blink of an eye. I’m just in shock and disbelief. I don’t want my maternity leave to be over. I don’t want Ni to get used to daycare and spend the whole day without me. I don’t want to be back at work and wonder how she’s doing and whether she’s eaten or slept or cried or laughed. I just want to be with her all day and enjoy mommy-hood with her.

I keep telling D to pray that we hit the lottery or that I get laid-off work so that I can be with my little pumpkin all day long. He just laughs and tells me to get over it. But what he or anyone else does see is the anxiety and guilt I feel for leaving my precious angel with strangers all day. It breaks my heart kissing her goodbye and wondering all day how she’s doing. I know this is how it has to be for now. But that doesn’t mean I have to happily enjoy it.

Emotionally baffled, yours,

~Tamana

Maternity Leave Blues

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Why is it that because we are moms and on maternity leave, spending time with our little ones, people think that we’re actually on vacation? Why do they think we sit around watching tv all day, or sleeping whenever the baby sleeps and are enjoying this time off work as if we have nothing to do all day?

I’m so sick of people thinking that maternity leave is a breeze and vacation. I’m sick of it! When in reality, we care for a little angel that is too small to tell us when they’re hungry, need a change, sleepy or in pain. We spend most of the time guessing if its one issue or the other. Every cry seems the same and it’s up to us to decide which we’re going to do first; feed them, change them, put them to sleep or kiss away booboos. And if that isn’t a full-time job in itself, we also cook, clean, do the laundry, pay the bills, pick up the grocery, give rides and make sure other family obligations are fulfilled. But at the end of the day, because we are home it seems as if we’ve done nothing all day. They go to work and are on their feet all day so their job is much more tiring than everything we do all day.

They get a day off work and its suddenly a vacation day for them. But when the heck do us moms (or dads who take paternity leaves) get a vacation day? When do we get a day to sleep-in and rid ourselves of all obligations and chores?

I’m frustrated. I’m exhausted. I’m depressed. And I just want to get away for a little while. Maybe do something just for me for once. But how? When? Where?

 

Ni’s 6 Week Birthday Letter

Happy 6 Week Birthday Ni!

It’s been a good week. Last Friday, mommy took you to meet a bunch of daddy’s friends and they all complimented you on how adorable and beautiful you are. But the all said that you look more like daddy and barely like me. Quite frankly, it’s true. Your eyes, your nose, even your hair all looks like daddy’s. The only feature you really got from mommy are your lips and skin color. Anyway, they all have you their blessings and lots of hugs.

On Saturday, grandma, mommy and you went on your first grocery shopping trip. You were in your stroller but you were wide awake and seemed to enjoy the ride.

Besides that, it’s been a pretty quiet week at home. We didn’t do much. But mommy did have her 6 week follow up appointment with her gynecologist who delivered you. She saw photos of you and mentioned that you were so cute and an absolute darling. She gave mommy some tips on helping you cope with your gas issues and on how to get you to sleep better. She then discussed how mommy can prevent a little brother or sister for you from arriving so soon and discussed the options mommy can take.

Anyway darling, mommy needs to go back to sleep, since you’re finally back to sleep too. Happy Birthday darling. Keep growing and giving mommy those adorable smiles. Mommy and daddy love you dearly. Xoxo

How To Calm A Baby

You know when you were pregnant and couldn’t move around without waddling like a penguin and getting up and sitting down was such a huge task, and waking up in the morning, showering, getting ready and going to work seemed like a huge accomplishment; well, that was the easy part! Even going through the labor and delivery wasn’t as exhausting and tough as taking care of a newborn.

Everyone tells you about the joys of pregnancy and being a new mom. But what everyone forgets to tell you is that the first six weeks or so of motherhood are going to be the hardest six weeks of your life. If you’re lucky, your mother-in-law and own mother will come help with the daily tasks and give you a few hours to yourself. But if you’re not or don’t have a mother or mother-in-law then you and your partner better be prepared for the bumpiest, most sleep-disruptive ride of your lives.

Ni is 3.5 weeks old and for the first week my mom slept over and helped out quite a lot. But soon after, she too became exhausted and hasn’t been feeling too well, so she’s gone back to her place and only occasionally comes over to help out. D’s been ever-so-helpful but busy himself lately. So, all Ni has left is her mommy, who’s trying to do her best to not get frustrated due to the exhaustion she feels. But sometimes its hard not to want to cry and sulk or take out your frustrations on your spouse ( as I have about half a dozen times this week).

I mean, overall, I’ve been blessed with a good child who doesn’t fuss and muss too much. But boy, when she does its like the end of the world. Lol. Those moments (realistically an hour or more) can be utterly nerve-wrecking and tormenting for you. But the one thing I’ve learned these past few weeks is, when she’s fussing be gentle, keep calm, and don’t let her feel your frustration. Because although baby maybe too young to understand many things at this time, they do realize when a parent is frustrated and that affects how quickly they settle down.

I’d like to share a few tips to settling a fussy baby (I haven’t mastered the art of calming a baby but Ni seems to calm down after a I’ve tried a few of these tactics on her).

1. Check the diaper! Some babies can tolerate a wet or soiled diaper for a couple of hours. But if your baby seems to have sensitive skin, like Ni, then she’ll fuss and get really worked up fast. So, make sure to check the diaper and change it first.

2. Is Baby Hungry? If you see baby smacking her lips together or sucking on her fingers or as Ni does, she cries and screams angay or so it sounds like, try sticking the tip of your pinky finger in her mouth and if she sucks, you know those are hunger cries. So what are you waiting for? Feed her already!

3. Is She Gassy? The best way to tell if your baby is gassy is if she’s got her fists clenched and seems to be pushing hard. My solution for this is try burping her on your shoulder or sit her up right and see if she can burp out the gas bubble. Ovol drops are useless and don’t help much. But if you can buy a bottle of Gripe water then your baby will love you! I give Ni a bit of gripe water in the morning because she’s been very colicky lately and the pediatrician was ok with me giving it to her daily as its more natural than giving Ovol drops.

4. Over-Stimulated? Sometimes a baby can be over-stimulated. Maybe you’ve had many visitors holding and touching her all day. Maybe you’ve been out and about in a noisy environment. Ni sometimes gets over-stimulated just by being over at my mom’s house and hearing all the kids play and dog bark. So, I give her a warm bath at night (well D does because I’m to chicken to by myself) and then he massages her gently with baby lotion, puts on her PJ’s and I feed her and then she falls asleep. This has seemed to help the most lately.

5. Maybe She Just Wants To Be Held Sometimes Ni is just fussy because she’s a baby and can be. So, when all else fails, I wrap her in a warm blanket and in my arms, I stand with my legs spread shoulder-length apart and rock my hips from side to side and sing in the most calm voice I possibly can (never knew I even had such a calm voice). After a good 10-15 mins of rocking and singing my darling angels settles down and normally falls asleep. But if her sleep isn’t deep, then I’ll take her into bed with me and let her sleep beside me until she wakes to be fed.

These few simple tricks have helped my little princess calm down and fall asleep. I know when a baby is fussing its hard not to lose your own cool. But if you can put your cool and frustrations on the back burner for a bit and calm baby down first, trust me you’ll all be much happier. Try them out and see if any of these work for you. Or share with me how you’ve calmed your little bundle of fuss, I mean joy!

Happy Mother-hooding!

Less Than Four Weeks To Go

With less than four weeks until my little princess arrives, I find myself getting anxious and nervous. She’s almost here and I just don’t feel like I’m prepared. Plus, there seem to be so many things I still need to buy and do before she arrives. But as the time gets closer, I am realizing that my pains are getting worst and I have much less energy to do all the things I still need to do. I could ask D for help, but he’s been suffering with my sleepless nights too and doesn’t drive and neither does my mom; which ultimately means I’ll have to be the one to drive them to pick up the things I need anyway.

But I just can’t get enough of the bed rest my doctor has prescribed me lately. Plus, driving seems like such a hassle too, especially with having to climb into my jeep. I’ve made a list of things I need to buy and will hopefully go to bed really early on Saturday night and then venture out with either D or my mom to get all the last minute items on Sunday. Well, that’s the plan anyway!

I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately of necessities for a newborn baby and will hopefully post it online tomorrow, so other moms don’t have to be as clueless as I have been over the past few months and won’t have to leave it until last minute like me.

Stay tuned lovies! I’ve got some great mommy to-be posts lined up to help out other moms and some DIY projects I plan to target over the next year.

Until then…xoxox