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Nid’s 4 Year Birthday Letter

Nid started junior kindergarten a month ago and now her 4th birthday is coming up. I can’t believe how quickly time is flying by. She’s growing up so quickly and my mother instincts want to hang on to her and stop her from soaring away. But I know it’s good for her and me that she grow, become independent and soar towards her independence. It’s just so hard letting go.She’s going to be 4 years old today and I just cannot believe where the past four years have gone by. It’s amazing how much Dev and I have learned because of and from this little person. We’ve learned tolerance, patience, to love without expectation and unconditionally. We’ve learned how a soft giggle and silent smile can bring overwhelming joy to our hearts. We’ve learned to multitask and go with the flow. We’ve learned that you could “deep clean” your home, spending multiple hours doing so and it could look like a tornado hit it 10 minutes later. She’s taught us this growing a year older is a blessing because the year ahead will be a whole new set of adventures and experiences to mark in my memoirs. 
And now when her fourth birthday is upon us, I just want to thank the Gods above for bringing this little being into my life at the most unexpected time ever. She is the blessing I needed and I am so grateful for her. She is the purpose of my smiles and the person who gives me that warm, tingling feeling in my heart. 
Happy 4th Birthday Nid! Mommy and Daddy love you dearly! 

Mom In Training: Consoling Your Toddler

A couple of days ago, Nid had stated to one of her teachers that she was really upset because Babu (her dad) was on the airplane and she missed him. Later that night, as we lay in bed she stated that her best friend, Maya didn’t play with her and she was upset because of it. I asked her why not and she responded, “because she plays in the doll house and there’s so many other kids there and I can’t play there.” I asked her why she didn’t play with other kids and she said they didn’t play with her and that no one plays with her. Feeling helpless, I told her, “don’t worry, mommy will play with you at home and at school, you can try playing with the other kids and try to join in the games and activities they’re interested in.”

My toddler is feeling upset and besides trying to give her as much happiness as I can without spoiling her, there’s not much else I can do but listen to her reasoning for being upset. 

I am a strong believer in communication and being someone that dealt with and suffered from depression all my life, I don’t want my daughter to feel like she can’t speak to me about her feelings; which is why every day Nid and I sit down and chat about her day in school. Of course, I ask her the usual questions; “did you eat your lunch? Were you good today? What did you do during activity time?” But I also ask her questions about how she felt, if something made her sad or happy and why she felt that way. I also ask her questions about how she could feel better if she felt upset.

I know she is only three and a half years old and probably has no clue what depression is. But depression can begin at a young age. With everyone being so busy and wrapped up with technology, I feel like families are losing time to communicate. You hear all those news reports of mass-shootings in schools and children committing suicide. Why do you think these children get to that extreme point where they decide to take their own lives or those of others? It’s because they’ve got years of feelings and thoughts built up inside them and no one bothering to ask them how they’re feeling or what they’re dealing with.

I won’t blame parents, it’s not my position to do so, I am not a perfect parent to the least bit. But as the adults, it is our job to open the way for communication and if your child doesn’t talk then either; which some will rebel against, it is also your job to find alternative methods to finding out what your child is feeling or going through. 

Growing up, my parents, specifically my father didn’t believe in talking to us or hearing about our feelings. It was the way he was raised; the man works and the woman deals with the kids. Although, my mother played the “I’m your friend” role in our lives, sometimes we just needed a father, a protector to hear us out. But he was too busy working. When my brother started dominating the house in my father’s absence, he became so dominating that you couldn’t even talk to him on a general level, let alone a personal one. 

My sister had a best friend, they were inseparable. They shared every detail about their lives. But I wasn’t the type to open up easily to others outside of the family. My tough exterior kept me that way for years. I wanted to tell my dad how I felt and what I feared. But when he wouldn’t take the time to listen, I turned to paper. I wrote 15-20 diaries during my early teen years. My diary was my best friend. It never judged me, it had no boundaries of what I could tell it and was always there whenever I needed it. It just didn’t console me or guide me. That emptiness was never filled and the need to receive guidance filled up inside me. I felt alone and helpless at times and depression engulfed me. 

I don’t want Nid to experience that helplessness. I’ve bought her a mommy-daughter diary and a daddy-daughter one too. Although, D and I try our best to ask questions and have an interest in her feelings. I know sometimes it might be hard for her to tell us everything. So, I’ve asked her to draw us a picture whenever she feels like she can’t talk to us. Right now, there’s a bunch of scribbles on the pages. Some are soft swirls and lines on the days when she’s just drawing for the sake of drawing. But there is also a day when she drew hard zigzags and nearly ripped through the paper. I know she was upset that day. She had gotten in trouble for misbehaving and her anger shows on the piece of paper. 

I asked her why she was scribbling so hard and she said she was upset because she didn’t like it when I got mad at her. That was the first time I realized she had shown me how she was feeling without telling me directly. 

I don’t know if I’m right or wrong to use this method of communication. I don’t know if it will help her tell us how she’s feeling. But for now, it’s an open door. As she grows my hope is that she’ll feel secure and safe enough to write or draw most of her feelings without feeling like we’ll be mad or judge her. My daily chats with her will always continue but at least we have our diaries for the days she doesn’t feel like talking. 

How do you deal with your children’s emotions? What are your methods of communication? Do you think my methods are right and will deem helpful in the long-run? Share your thoughts!

Ni’s 3rd Birthday Party

My little Minnie Mouse at her 3rd Birthday Party
My little Minnie Mouse at her 3rd Birthday Party

Although both Nid and I were sick with a cold, we celebrated her third birthday this past weekend. She was so excited that her friends were coming over to play with her, that I didn’t have the heart to cancel her party. It was a fun-filled day and she was so happy; which was worth all the effort and energy D and I put into making her party happen.

She’s grown up so much, it amazes me every time I think about it. She was such a good girl, shared her toys and goodies with her friends and there were no breakdowns or tantrums. We played a couple of games; hot balloon and toss the ball in the bucket and all the kids ate and enjoyed themselves, as did their parents. Overall, I think my first toddler birthday party was a big success!

Here are some photos of her special day!

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With two of her best friends; Jamario and D’ondria
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Kisses and Hugs while cutting her cake
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Anxiously opening presents
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With her three friends; Jamario, Adamaya and D’ondria
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Cheers and claps for being such a big girl
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The amazing cake by Jessica from Cupcake Junkie
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Playing toss the ball in the bowl
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Best friends hold hands

Happy 3rd Birthday, Ni!

Ni's Year In Review
Ni’s Year In Review

Happy Birthday, darling!

I can’t believe you’re three years old! Time has flown by so quickly. I remember the day you were born, you were so tiny and fragile and now, you are such a big girl. You’re riding a bike now, you can open the fridge and freezer doors. You know how to tidy up your room on your own and put on your clothes. You can grab a snack on your own and share one with mommy and daddy too.

The day Ni was born
The day Ni was born

You’ve become so independent and as much as daddy and I would like to think so, you’re not our little baby anymore. You’re our big girl now and we are so happy to see what a beautiful girl you are becoming.

Ni's First Birthday
Ni’s First Birthday

You started pre-school earlier this year, it was hard at first, but you’ve gotten used to it now and love it. You also have a new babysitter, Kiesha and she’s grown so close to you, as you have to her.

Ni's Second Birthday
Ni’s Second Birthday

As you start another year and grow bigger, smarter, more beautiful, mommy and daddy want you to know that we love you so much, more than anything in the world. Your smiles help soothe all of our pains and miseries and take away all of our stress. No matter how big you get or how old you are, you will always be our darling baby girl and we’ll love just as much tomorrow as we do today.

Three Years Old!

Three Years Old!

Happy Birthday, sweetheart. Hugs and kisses for another beautiful year ahead. Xoxo

Planning Ni’s 3rd Birthday Party

NI's First Day of Daycare
NI’s First Day of Daycare

Can you believe it? My little munchkin is going to be 3-years old next month! It surprises me and shocks me to see how big she’s gotten. I mean, just look at her in this photo above, she was only 1-years old and now she’s almost 3. Wow! How quickly time flies.

As you all know, she’s a Halloween baby. As I’ve done for the past two years, I will be planning a costume birthday party for her this year as well. However, this year, we’ve decided not to invite adults and basically have 5-6 children come over that attend the same daycare as her. Plus, I’ll be taking a cake into daycare for her, so that she can celebrate her birthday with her classmates as well.

The theme this year is Minnie Mouse! Well actually, we are debating between Dora the Explorer and Minnie Mouse. I think Ni likes both, I prefer Minnie. But Dev told me to also consider Dora. I just find it hard to picture Ni dressed up as Dora, plus, Minnie Mouse is so much cuter. But we’re going to leave it up to Ni to decide.

The plan is to print out a couple of pictures of each character and put them up around the house, the ones Ni collects the most of is the one we’ll be choosing as the theme for the party. After all, it is her party and she should be the one to decide which character she’d like to see at her birthday, right?

Right now, I’m mostly occupied by figuring out what I’m going to feed the kids that do come over and what games/activities we’re going to do. So, I’m spending a lot of my free-time on Pinterest hunting for ideas.

If you know any, do share. I could really use the help because this is the first party that I’m having kids over for and I just don’t know what exciting games we can play.

Ni’s 32nd Month Birthday Letter

Happy 32nd Month Birthday, baby girl!

I know mommy has been absolutely terrible at writing your birthday letters the past couple of months. But so much has been going on that mommy just forgets. I’m sorry darling!

You’ve started a new pre-school and are growing into such a beautiful little girl. You also started your terrible twos! So, you’ve been quite the handful these past couple of months. You throw tantrums and toys across the house. You yell and pinch and cry if you don’t get your way. But you’re not all that terrible. You give the sweetest hugs and kisses all the time. You hold mine and daddy’s hand and jump up and down. You say, “I love you” and “good morning/night”. You mostly always say please and thank you; which makes me so proud of how polite you are.

You are growing up so quickly, my darling. With only a couple of months left until your third birthday, I am uncertain of how time has flown by so quickly. But know that no matter how old you get, mommy and daddy will love you dearly and you’ll always be our little angel.

Here are some pictures of the past couple of months I missed to write birthday letters to you about.

Lunch date with mommy!
Daddy and you went raspberry picking with your pre-school.
Hari and I went grocery shopping and you were with us. while we put away the rest of the groceries, you found your way into the strawberries ans ate half the box. there were strawberries everywhere!
You and daddy; hand-in-hand. Our trip to costco
Liat came down for a visit and decided to pick you up after daycare. The two of you are always all giggles and kisses.
My little diva ready for an evening out with mommy! You are such a little poser.
You love roasted sweet corn: at the taste of the Danforth.
You and me playing with the bubble gun Jia got for you, at the taste of Danforth.
My little Indian princess, all dressed up to go with Nani and Nanu to the temple.
Sunday morning shenanigans with daddy. All he wanted was to take a little nap but you turned him into your horsey.
At the end of the night after a long day at CNE, you decided you would finally sit in your stroller, holding all the toys mommy won for you!

Ni’s 31st Month Birthday Letter & Starting Pre-School Details

myangelHappy 31 Months, baby. Mommy is sorry for not writing your 2 and a half years birthday and this letter sooner. I’ve battled physical pains and emotional stresses a lot lately and it completely slipped my mind to write these letters for you.

So much has happened over the past couple of months. You are 2 and a half years old, baby girl! Wow! How has time flown by so quickly? Last Friday, June 5th was your last day at daycare. You didn’t understand what that meant, but mommy certainly did. It was a sad day to say goodbye to all of your friends and the loving staff. But when one door closes, another will open and it did!

You started pre-school on Monday. You were terrified by all the new faces and environment. I was terrified to leave you with strangers once again. I almost cried while speaking to the supervisor but she reassured me that you would be well-taken care of and would get used to your new “school” soon. 4-days in and you are definitely getting used to it and have begun liking it there. But mommy still doesn’t seem comfortable yet.

My heart still pounds with anxiety every time daddy calls me and tells me he’s just dropped you off. I still feel the urge to call the pre-school to check-up on you and ask if you’ve eaten, slept or had any issues with the other kids or teachers. I called the first two days and the teachers reassured me that you only cried when daddy dropped you off and once involved in activities, the tears went away.

Yesterday, you didn’t cry at all; which is a great sign that you’re enjoying herself.

I can’t believe you have become such a big-girl. You are so independent now and it’s amazing. You’re not a baby anymore, except for when you get a boo-boo and need mommy to kiss it all better and yell at the piece of furniture that hurt you (which you bumped into yourself because you’re clumsy).

You also have a “special friend”. His name is Jason. He’s a little toy doll at your old daycare that has become your best-friend. Everything you talk about has Jason involved in it. When I go back to your old daycare to pick up the rest of your things, I’ll take a picture of Jason and send it to your email, so that you can remember him forever!

Anyway, sweetheart. Please keep growing into this beautiful, loving girl that you are becoming and keep making mommy and daddy fall in love with a little more every day. We love you, darling angel. Happy 31st Birthday.

Mommy~